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The Local Sex Shop Podcast: beginners guide to BDSM

Welcome to the beginners guide to BDSM! In this double episode, Mikaella has a chat with her dear kinky friend Roan.

In this episode, Mikaella has a chat with her dear kinky friend Roan! Roan walks us through the basics for BDSM. Besides the whips and latex, what kind of practices does BDSM include? Is it exclusively sexual? Do you know what to expect and how do you negotiate what happens in a BDSM scene? Roan takes us through useful terminology for beginners such as Total Power Exchange and role archetypes.

In part two of this guide to BDSM, Roan shares with us the points of attraction for kinksters. What are the emotional and psychological motives for someone to be submissive or dominant? Do kinky people look a certain way and can you tell what their roles are by their day-to-day personalities?

Are dominants aggressive and submissives obedient followers? What is the relevance of childhood trauma in kinky inclinations? Can BDSM have a healing aspect to it? Is there a kinky scene in Groningen?

Have a listen to our new episode and find out for yourself!

Looking for another guide to BDSM? Here are some recommendations:

https://www.youtube.com/@WattsTheSafeword/playlists

https://www.youtube.com/@MsMorganThorne/playlists

Podcast: Why are people into that? (by Tina Horn)

https://submissiveguide.com/

Checklists and negotiation sheets:

https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/bdsm-checklist

https://www.bextalkssex.com/yes-no-maybe/

https://www.devianceanddesire.com/content/uploads/2022/10/NotAChecklistSheet.pdf

About the hostess: Mikaella (she/her) comes from Cyprus. She is studying Psychology with a clinical direction as a Major and has Minor courses in English Language and Culture at the University of Groningen. She has been the Activity Coordinator of Let’s Talk About Sex Groningen (LTAS) since 2021.

Her passion for sex education stems from the realization of how little proper sex education is provided by our physical environments and how much shame is ingrained into us for our sexuality and sexual expression. With this podcast, she aims to give voices to local students and experts to fight this reality and start meaningful conversations!